Tuesday, October 11, 2005

V is for Victim

A man (Vincent Keningale) yells at his wife. According to the wife (Doris Keningale), he yells many, many times over the years since they met in 1991. He is also forgetful. According to the wife, he refuses to seek counseling for his yelling and forgetfulness. The man is 61. The wife is 43. One night a knife she is holding, one with an eight and a half inch blade, ends up embedded in his chest. The wife says that she intended to slap him to stop his shouting when he walked into the knife. The husband was pronounced dead at the hospital.

Key quotes:

Wife: "I did not want to kill him. I just wanted to say: 'Please stop'. He was so aggressive I could not cope any more. It was a cry for help."

from the BBC article: "[The wife] told the court that mental abuse was worse than if she had been abused physically. "

The Defense: "This is as close to an accident as it is possible to come."

The Prosecutor: "[It was] a very sad, cruel background, where the verbal abuse was intolerable".

The Judge (to the wife): "You were truly and genuinely shocked by what happened."

The Sentance: 3 years probation (Community Rehabilitation).

The BBC's Headline: "Abused woman killed husband "

Now let me change the scenario a little bit, just flip the genders. Do you think any of the above quotes would seem legitimate or likely?

The gender-modified story:

A woman yells at her husband. According to the husband, many, many times over the years since they met in 1991. She is also forgetful. According to the husband, she refuses to seek counseling for her yelling and forgetfulness. The wife is 61. The man is 43. One night a knife he is holding, one with an eight and a half inch blade, ends up embedded in the wife's chest. The husband says that he intended to slap her to stop her shouting when she walked into the knife. The wife was pronounced dead at the hospital.

I find it very unlikely that anyone would see a 43-year old man as the victim, or even as an accidental murderer under the above circumstances. Instead the media would be on him as someone who 'got rid of' his 'troublesome' wife, instead of divorcing her. His tears and claims of her shouting would be laughed off, as they should be irregardless of the gender of the murderer. And he would be in jail for a long, long time.

In this case, the real victim, murdered in his golden years, by a much younger spouse, ends up named 'abuser', while the murderer happily assumes the mantle of victim. If it were not for the mind-bogglingly biased nature of the courts the facts could never support this verdict, or the BBC's treatment of it.

I am disgusted.

-M

Simulposted on MIsForMalevolent

The BBC Article is Here.

Men's Activism.Org alerted me to the article.


5 Comments:

Blogger Iguana said...

All the more reason to avoid marriage and make sure you always have your own place to live. It's hard for a hetero man to do without a woman from time to time, but we all need to learn to keep a woman in her proper place, which is living in her own home and not in yours.

10/11/2005 03:12:00 PM  
Blogger One man said...

I couldn't agree more. A woman's place is on her own, OUT OF MY HOUSE. Marriage is for women and fools.

10/11/2005 03:30:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

icWales adds the following facts to the mix:

A post-mortem shows that Vincent, the husband (and father of two) was suffering from the beginnings of Alzheimers disease. Imagine how it would look now, if a 40-something man murdered his 60-something wife who was in the early stages of this debilitating disease...

ICWales notes that the argument was over all the work (and no doubt funds) that were going to have to go into a gift shop the wife wanted to open. - The wife who "worked for the Department of Work and Pensions, in Cardiff, but was hoping to turn her hobby of making costume jewellery into a business, told police she had suffered years of verbal abuse, often being pushed or pulled out of bed when she tried to escape her husband."

Hm. So. He threw her out of his bed. Shocking. Is that a crime now too?

Vincent worked as a doorman and handyman.

So, reading between the lines, it sounds like here we have a 61-year old man, thinking about retirement, murdered by his wife whom he no longer loves when he resists throwing their marital assets, which he hopes to live off of for the next short 10 years of his life, at a boondoggle.

As a result, the murderer will get just what she wanted. Him out of the picture, all of their assets in her hands, and the ability to open her 'shoppe'. Sounds like plenty motive for me.

Another thing that bothers me is how often men are killed by women 'while drinking' and the claim is made that they became 'violent and abusive' as they 'often did' - such claims made with little evidence of same. One wonders if sometimes the men didn't become 'drunk and easy to murder'.

10/12/2005 12:32:00 PM  
Blogger One man said...

Women get away with murder all the time in this wonderfully liberated nation.

10/12/2005 04:12:00 PM  
Blogger The Geezer said...

Misandrope is disgusted.

The Geezer is just plain pissed off. Or cheesed off, as they say in the isles.

The Geezer

10/13/2005 07:29:00 AM  

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