Monday, October 24, 2005

D is for the Dance of Death

Rosa Lee Parks has passed on at 92.

We all are familiar with her simple story, and how it helped to change the US, and the world by by helping to break down laws that discriminated against a whole group of citizens based on their color. The bravery of this woman strikes me, and how her weakness made her strong.

Michelle Malkin has a post on her here.

I think that men similarly are weak, but strangely are seen as strong, even as our last rights are being taken away. We need to find and hold up our own Rosa Parks-like people, persuade them to make themselves visible. Unfortunately so many pass on in despair and hopelessness - finally dying rather than lose their entire life to court-enforced slavery.

It's a strange team of martyrs and saints here in the men's rights pantheon:

Perry Manley comes to mind. A man who fought for years against an unfair system, and finally gave his life in an act of protest in Seattle. Most striking to me in retrospect the interviews with his ex-wife and her deadpan lack of any apparent sense of her part in his death. 'It was really about the money'. Yes it was, wasn't it. Notice how neatly the reporters wrap it up, without really touching at all on the issues of men's rights, casting Manley as a crackpot. The word 'Garnishment' is never mentioned in the news report. Instead we hear his ex saying how he selfishly quit his high-paying job, and how in the end, it was just mean-ness that lead him to seek death at the hands of Seattle's police. We hear less about the real man and his cause. I like the comment in this article by a friend, who said that Manley was about to do something drastic, a comment that rings so true:

Tom Swanson, who accompanied Manley to the flag burning and shares Manley's belief that child support is illegal, said Manley had promised that if the flag burning didn't attract enough attention to his plight, he was going to do something "more drastic."
"Nobody would listen to us," said Swanson, who lives in his car in Tacoma and was reached by cellphone.

Nothing speaks more poignantly to the desparation of men than this simple comment of a man who now lives in his car - perhaps tied to the fact that suicide rates for divorced men dwarf any other demographic division. - A suicide EPIDEMIC, linked directly to the rulings of family courts by Augustine Kposowa of the University of California in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health. (abstract)

Others come to mind...

Darrin White, who was driven to despair after being driven from his home, denied all contact with his three children, and ordered to pay twice his annual income in alimony and support. Darrin hung himself from a tree in March 2000. No evidence of any wrongdoing was ever presented against him, and a supreme court judge commented that “There is nothing unusual about this judgment”. All too common. Other links here, here,

Other heroes:

Our various spider men and the like...(Ron Davis for example)

Or Stephen Baskerville, Phd (he even has a wiki entry), for his voice of activism and reason, and Augustine Kposowa or any of the hundreds and hundreds of other researchers who have spoken the truth to power, the truth that men do not leave, do not abuse, and that fathers are actually the least likely to harm children in any way.

and more....

How about that kid (Rylan Nitzschke) who had to pay his own child support?

Or the Granny whose life savings where seized to pay for her son's 'support debts'.

Or the juveniles who were raped and ordered to pay child support to their rapists.

Or that 85-year-old man who was raped by his housekeeper, who was ordered to pay support to his rapist for the offspring that she had, and had his pension garnished.

(see here for these and more)

There certainly are enough candidates...

I guess the thing is, to get the media to start being able to pick up the notes of the melody that is playing...

-It's a death-march for marriage and family, and it is being directed by the gender-feminists, the knee-jerk-women's-rights-legislators, greedy spouses, and the divorce industry.

I just hope people realize that it's a Danse Macabre before it is too late.

...It may already be.


(simulposted on MIsForMalevolent. See Here and Here for more on the Danse Macabre)


Blogger One man said...

Perry was my friend. He over paid by $14,000 dollars and they refused to give back his license and passport anyway. They would not give the money back either. They never do. The ones who could’ve, made him jump through countless hoops just to get back what many of us take for granted. He was my friend. I remember the sound of his laughter and I miss him.

10/25/2005 09:22:00 PM  
Blogger nightshademary said...

His money was more important that his kids?

In about 20 years, all you MRA dudes are all gonna be wondering why your kids never want to come see you.

10/26/2005 08:55:00 AM  
Blogger One man said...

Another poisonous bitch ^^^ there. He OVERPAID in the end. Read our archives for more of the truth about Perry. Susan is full of shit.

And my kids love me. So does my mom, my sisters and most of my former lovers including my chilren's mother. Doesn't that just piss you off?

10/26/2005 01:27:00 PM  
Blogger Tom Swanson said...

You are so ignorant of the facts Nightshademary. The reality is, he still had to survive outside of his marriage. Five years ago he was making $15.00 an hour. Most of us pay a a 28% income tax burden like Perry. Another 50% deducted for child support. His apartment was $500.00 - 550.00 if I recall properly.
So let's review:
Gross income 2400.00, net income 1728.00, less 50% child support 864.00, less rent 364.00, less utilities(-$200.00) 164.00. . .
I think I will stop right there. This man only had roughly $164.00 a month to "survive"! It's no wonder why he walked every where in this town. He didn't get to have a car, assets, investments, property, medical, dental, life, tuition(for the children), savings, vacations, family reunions, etc.

It never had anything to do with his love for his children. Nothing to do with the fact that Susan Calhoun made more money than Perry in his entire life. Nothing to do with the fact that he payed the lionshare of the responsibilities, and yet received very little visitation in return.

I challenge you just like I did to David Stillman (Director of D.C.S.), if you can live for one month on $164.00 in a storage unit or a car like I do then I will acquiesce to your argument.

Until such a time, I think you need to ruminate on that a bit.

I wouldn't know if my child wants to see me or not? Since a nice, selfless mother like yourself took him away from me and deprived him of a father for the past 11 years. That's pretty sad since he's not biologically mine, but I love him just the same. Poor kid, doesn't even know who his real father is anymore than his slut mother.
I do know this. . .there will come a day when he's 16 and driving, and hopefully he will find me with the trail of crumbs I left behind. I don't have to make excuses because I tried year after year. He doesn't even have to listen to me. He can go right over to Grandma & Grandpa, his uncles & aunts, all the lawyers I hired to get to the truth. He can read the police reports about his irresponsible mother and all the times she destroyed the house, our cars, threw knives at me. Especially all the times I was standing on the other side of the front door when my son was crying to see me, but she wouldn't open it. . .all the while the police couldn't do anything about it.

I'm done with you.

10/27/2005 07:00:00 AM  
Blogger MisAnDrope said...

Nightshade, you have been well responded to, but your comment has not been addressed, and I think it is because it is obvious to men, but perhaps not to you, that when I said "Yes it was, wasn't it" (about the money), I was saying that the funds that his ex-wife took from him using the state-enforced slavery of child support and alimony were much more important to her than having a father in her children's life.

Money was more important than her kid's father, more important than a man's life and ability to live it.

The system is certainly at fault for allowing an atrocity like the current abuse of men to happen, but the women who use it are more than equally at fault.

- Yes the system is abusive to men, but if women don't pick the club of divorce law and beat men with it, the abuse doesn't happen.

So yes, Perry's wife cared more for his money, than if he was able to eat, where he slept, or if he could afford a car. She cared more for his money than if his children could see him on occasion. For her it was all about the money. And now she sits back and snipes at him as being 'mean', while he is six feet under and can't respond. Perry probably didn't have two cents left to leave to his kids.

So yes.... For her, it was all about the money, wasn't it?


10/27/2005 07:46:00 AM  
Blogger Tom Swanson said...

Thank you for clearing that up! In fact he didn't have any money when he died. His brother and I paid for the service. Otherwise, he would have been cremated by the city.

10/27/2005 08:31:00 AM  
Blogger MisAnDrope said...

Thank you, Tom, for being so forthcoming. Not all men are so brave, myself included. :)

10/28/2005 08:12:00 AM  

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